Thomas Smithyman, PhD – Your Path to a Confident Social Life

You’ve been struggling with social anxiety for a long time.

It’s hard to be self-confident, and you find yourself giving up on the things you really want. You know you’re not reaching your potential — you could have a more fulfilling social life, advance farther at work, feel comfortable flirting, or even enjoy public speaking.

You have more to offer the world, but other people never get to see it. Maybe you’ve even tried to work on it in the past, but you never make the progress you want.

You find yourself thinking:

“What if they notice how anxious I am?”
“Why am I so awkward?”
“What if I try to connect but they don’t like me?”
“I’m probably going to screw this up.”

You end up feeling lonely, frustrated, and self critical. But you deserve to feel authentically self-confident and to thrive in the social world.

Maybe you’ve noticed that your social anxiety gets worse over time. Most people who don’t seek treatment find themselves becoming more nervous. It becomes harder to meet people, and you notice everybody else gets more established in their relationships and careers. You end up feeling further and further behind.

You worry that it will never get better.

I can help.

I know how hard it is to suffer with social anxiety. I have dedicated my life to helping people overcome their social fears and live their best life. I specialize in the treatments that can help you finally overcome social anxiety.

I know it’s intimidating to take that first step to begin treatment, but I’ve done this many times and I’ll guide you through the treatment process.

I’m glad you’re here, and happy you are on your path to a confident social life.

Together, we develop a personalized model of how your social anxiety works.

We identify the most important individual mechanisms driving the problem, then we create a plan to break these down one at a time. We usually work on changing where you focus your attention, updating unhelpful thinking, learning new ways of behaving that will accomplish your goals.

I specialize in treating:

Dating Anxiety

You want to connect and date, form satisfying romantic relationships. You know it’s one of the most important things in life. But you get so nervous in dating situations or around people you find attractive that you can’t help but shut down. Or maybe you find excuses and back away to safety, giving up on even trying to meet someone. This often triggers regret and loneliness.

Social Anxiety At Work

Maybe you experience discomfort speaking up in front of others, offering opinions, or fear stepping into leadership roles and taking on more responsibility. Moving up the ladder usually requires more complicated social interaction and the ability to tolerate more risk. It’s no surprise then that people with social anxiety tend to earn less money and fall behind peers in job advancement.

Public Speaking Anxiety

You get really anxious when a lot of eyes are focused on you. It’s very uncomfortable. Even worse, the anxiety makes it really hard to talk, present, or perform the way you know you can. You find yourself avoiding these opportunities or struggling through them. Often this can mean you don’t move ahead in work or school.

People Pleasing

Being kind and agreeable is a wonderful social skill. But sometimes this can go too far and become “people pleasing.” When it happens, you put others’ needs first. Sometimes it’s appreciated, but often people can take advantage of you. You often end up being less respected and never getting your own needs met.

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Hi, I'm Dr. Thomas Smithyman. I help people overcome their social anxiety.

Dating Without Fear: Overcome Social Anxiety and Connect

You’ve been struggling with social anxiety for a long time.

My Services

Together, we develop a personalized model of how your social anxiety works.

I specialize in treating:

Social Anxiety

Dating Anxiety

Social Anxiety At Work

Public Speaking Anxiety

People Pleasing

Start the Conversation

Hi, I'm Dr. Thomas Smithyman. I help people overcome their social anxiety.

Dating Without Fear: Overcome Social Anxiety and Connect

You’ve been struggling with social anxiety for a long time.

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My Services

Together, we develop a personalized model of how your social anxiety works.

I specialize in treating:

Social Anxiety

Dating Anxiety

Social Anxiety At Work

Public Speaking Anxiety

People Pleasing

Start the Conversation