What is Dating Anxiety?

You might catch yourself thinking things like:

  • What they think I’m awkward?
  • They can tell I’m anxious.
  • They won’t like me if they find out how anxious I really am.
  • What if they don’t like me when we meet up?
  • What if I show that I like them and I get rejected?
  • No one I like will be into me.
  • I don’t know what to say or text


Maybe you find yourself:

  • Waiting until it’s obvious someone likes you before showing any interest
  • Hiding any signs of attraction when you like someone
  • Not trying for people you really want to date
  • Attempting to seem more impressive than you really are
  • Trying to figure out how to act to make people like you
  • shutting down and not being able to say anything
  • Avoiding parties, bars, or other environments where you might meet someone
  • Staying off dating apps or not actually meeting up for dates

Dating anxiety is a pattern of defensive social behavior, aimed at avoiding embarrassment or rejection. You want a connection but you’re so scared of what might go wrong that you miss out.

How I treat dating anxiety

I can help you understand the way that your dating anxiety works. This is a type of social anxiety, and we can identify the important components that escalate anxiety for you (self-focused attention, high performance standards, protective behavior, emotional regulation problems). And when we do, I can help you start to make the changes that break down dating anxiety. As this happens, I support you as you move towards your dating goals. I help you get comfortable in dating so you have the best experience you can. 

Take the First Step

Over the last 15 years, I’ve had success helping a lot of people overcome their social anxiety problems and live a richer, more fulfilling life. No matter how long is been, you can still make progress. Take a step towards your new life and get started today.